He is married.

So on Saturday, the day after America celebrated yet another year, we went and got my friend married. It was a beautiful celebration. Never mind the journey some people had to take, it was great. They had fun, mad fun. I am sure many of those traveling, were using just a little bit of energy on their journey down. They saved the rest for Saturday, which perhaps added more stress to their already tired body. Afterall, bodi no be firewood.

I am not sure anyone was more happier than the bride, except for say my friend the groom. He kept saying I cant wait for the day to be done, then it became I cant wait to dance at the reception. Then it was I cant wait to be married. Soon he gave in. Lets do this, he said. I was so proud and happy, you would have thought I was his father if you could read my mind. I stood by him as, yes you guessed it, best man knowing I was making the right choice supporting him - not that it would have changed anything otherwise - but then that would be getting to technical.

On Saturday, we partied up. One of us has taken the plunge upwards into the best years of his life. We danced; In all the emotions, happiness, and giddiness he didnt loose himself. He even danced to Billy Jean in a way only Michael Jackson himself could have. He did at the previous night party and also at the wedding to cap off a performance by friends who did a fashion show.

Marriage is like a dance, not only do you need the right partner, you have to be the right partner. And thats what I saw when I watched my friend say "I do" to his bride. I saw first hand how partners learn from and rub off each other. She learned a lot and has changed in ways I would have thought people resisted. So did he. Now I know, the woman or man for you and I would not mind our little shananigans but accept them and make a rainbow out of them. Funny, a few weeks ago, I thought to myself anyone who cannot appreciate and work with the good effort I put into a relationshiop, just might not be mine. If only they would walk away (am I digressing?)

I have always observed marriages favorably, unlike some who think that in marriage you tie yourself down, or settle for someone, or perhaps withold yourself from sex with numerous women - or men - (I am not sure that is what life is made off). Looking at my friend, it made marriage a worthwhile endeavor. To have a friend, someone to watch your back, and someone to care for and about. Someone to feel free around. You cant find such people in the market, you make them out of their raw materials as they make you out of yours.

Well well, I was feeling maybe I should have someone to call my own then, and some girls were looking mighty delicious (good and caring), but I quickly snapped out of it. and decided I might just be single a little while longer looking for some good raw materials to carve out my woman from. I think that is a much better solution. Am I saying it wont be one of the many ladies at the wedding, nah I never said that.

My good friend, congratulations from the buttom of my heart. Friends like you are either rare or readily available, I am just fortunate you are my friend. Someday, I will be sure to join your kind (in marriage that is) until then keep it popping. I am sure you will soon show me what I am missing out of. But nah, I wont be pressured.