Life Progressions

It is currently 11:25 pm. This time next week my friend of 11 years will be married. He will be snatched out of this life of singleness into coupleness. In my inner circle of friends, though we are scattered every which way, there are four of us guys. We held close enough, we have other friends that just dont match up to our type of freindship. Maybe they do, but we are just different if you know what I mean. Perhaps you have long friends as such, maybe you know some people since forever but they just dont match with this other set you have not known for so long. But either way, I do. One is married, 2 are engaged and I, I am just me. Actually, 2 are married but the one was traditional. The formal (why do we call everything white formal) is coming up.

When my friend gets married next week, and the third in another 2 months, i will be left all singular. No, I am not sad, but its almost lonely, yet I am not alone. I am very happy for my friend getting married, it couldnt have happened to a more worthy person. Not that the journey there was easy for him, he had his struggle for you know there were some hurdles to jump over. I am excited for my friend, he kept his composture, he kept his head up, and that has made it easy for all to rejoice with him. Through this life, I learnt that all things do come around at some point in time, all things do work out. As they say, "what would be would be." In this case, that has proved through.

I will be his bestman. He is much taller, hence I will not be stealing the show. I think they would be wondering who the short guy tailing him is.

The most inetersting part, we talk on how it used to be. The girls dated that one wished would have worked out but didnt, the girls almost dated, if there was ever such a thing, and no we did not talk about the girls that will never be dated, as that is not the point of life. We reminisced on school life, the struggle, the hardship, the triumphs. Who would have thought that someday we will be here counting our blessings, and looking forward to start a whole new life. Not just with one self, but to care for another, to love them, to cherish them. Someone that makes you happy, that nbreathes new life into you. I am not sure there is anything better than to be vulnerable around someone else, to trust them with you emotions. Of course its not always sweet, thats the reality we put in mind.

Whats the point of this post, I dont know really. I am happy for my friend, I am proud to stand by him to cheer him on. because when I was down, he lent me a hand. When life was bleak, he shared is joy. As men, we cant always cry, but everyman must let it out somehow. He is my let it out buddy. Someone you can just go hang with, an talk about everything. Someone who laughs at you, makes fun of your silly mistakes, who tells you he thought the girl you dated was crazy but you seemed to handle it well. He laughs at my choices, asking why I like so much drama (and strangely I am attracted to it - drama that is). Sometimes you just need a friend to tell you the stupid thing was not really your fault, who tells you even though you knew the girl was wrong for you its still her fault it all went south. Dont you just love that.

My good friend, as you go ahead to be joined to the woman of your dreams, the woman who makes it all worth it, the one who gave you a reason to stay, I bid you well. I pray that the joy of finding a love, a friend, someone to care for, to cherish, will always be yours. Many have taken this step more than once, yours will be permanent. I will miss our time of talk, as I know now you have one better to talk to.

My friend, enjoy your marriage, enjoy hyourself, enjoy your wife. Enjoy life.